The irony of failinf in love

Boy meets girl. Girl meets boy. They fall in love. They argue. Love dies. They both suffer. Then comes the inevitable goodbye.

Have you ever asked this to yourself? Did you really fall in love? Or did you just fall in love with the idea of it? It’s hard to differentiate the two especially when you’re blinded by ‘love’.

Now, I want you to listen and analyze what I’m about to say.

Men lie just to get what they want. They tell you everything that is pleasing to the eardrum, change themselves if you ask them to, wait for you under the pouring rain just to show you how they wet their shirts, stay up all night just to talk to you on the phone, promise you the stars, sun and the rest of the milky way. And sometimes, they tell the biggest lie, “I’d die for you.” ( Oh, c’mon! )

Now, how would you feel about all these? We, as women tend to be so emotional that we’d start feeling so special, more beautiful, loved and cared for. Then we become soft and vulnerable. And we lie. Yes, you read it right. We lie. We lie to ourselves. We begin to think that since men are such adorable creatures, we tell ourselves, “Hey, why not? He’s in love with me. It might work.” After sometime, this lie would be sugar coated as ‘love’. It is not during the courtship that you think you fall in love. It’s during the relationship, because that’s when you develop intimacy and become emotionally dependent to that person.

You feel, say and act what you have in mind. So when you think you’re in love, you’re in love no matter what other people say.

So, what am I saying here? Simple. Falling in love is not something that your mind should be bothered about. Don’t think if you’re in love or not. Feel it. If you have a doubt, then it’s a ‘no’, so don’t force it. Don’t pretend you shiver when he gives you goose bumps.

Listen to yourself, girl. Don’t ask for other people’s advices. You see, advices are answers you already knew, but wish you didn’t that's why you need confirmation from other people. It’s possible that it’s because you’re not yet ready to act on it or because it’s too much for you to bear. Either way, you know you have to do it still. And the moment you do, that’s when you have climbed up the ladder of growth and maturity.